An introduction to the GOOD PUPPY Behavioral & Emotional System, for children ages 3 to 9. A guide to improving parenting through awareness, motivation and the understanding of emotions.Read More
Setting off on this journey guided by the light that the title of this book has to offer, has brought much needed clarity to some shadowy corners of the learning experience that is parenting.
The questions “why me?” and “why this?” are to be urgently explored as parents face their biggest challenges in life unknowingly treading as teachers through their own schooling time. Learning to be the grown up, to set up rules and enforce them, to think ahead and plan for the child’s well being, to filter and to provide the child with the tools he or she will need in life to succeed. These are all skills parents learn on the go. But, where is everyone going in such a hurry?Read More
Just like any job, raising a child comes with a list of requirements. It is probably the longest list of all, since it entails full responsibility for a human being’s life.
Broken down into seven broad but driving categories, parents can visualize and assess how to put their powers to work everyday. Learning to create positive effects in the child’s character, habits, self-discipline, self-esteem and view of the world they inhabit.Read More
Why would you start a book with “patience”? Can we get any more boring than that? But this passive action holds the key to making good decisions and is the essential ingredient for the next six requirements.
Imagine “patience” as the force to draw from to feed sensitivity, attention, communication, motivation, consistency and even courage. From caring to creative thinking, patience is at the root of all that is positive and good. While lack of patience is a quick creator of negative, violent, frustrating or even evil situations.
Patience brings balance and harmony. It allows us time to think before we react. It may buy us enough time to find our original reactions absurd, petty or egotistical, typical go-to reactions from our ego’s defense mechanism.
By being patient with ourselves, by allowing ourselves the time we need to get things done, by not demanding more of ourselves than what we can achieve, by avoiding comparisons to others or impossible ideals, we build our own self-esteem while we learn to exercise that same patience with others.Read More
Sensitivity builds trust and reinforces bonding. When children feel understood and respected they feel confident with who they are. Awareness of their limitations will put you more in tune with theirpersonalities and help you find the best way to communicate with them.
While curbing your children’s behavior through a reward and loss of privilege system, reason and emotion should be your main concerns. Anytime the child misbehaves, there will be a logical reason why and the fueling truth of emotion behind it. Both reason and emotion should be discerned in order to fully address each situation.
Knowing what affects your child even in common circumstances such as feeling tired or cranky will help you better deal with the situation. Most children get cranky when tired and it is a parent’s job to make sure children get the sleep they need. Finding a way to get the child to sleep would be the sensitive solution; expecting the child to behave would be asking for more than the child is prepared to endure.Read More
Like the warmth of the sun, think of attention as the nurturing energy radiating from your eyes. Now think of your emotions as the frequency selector. Some stations are harmonious, raising spirits. Others exude negativity and limitations. Before you pay, give, or focus your attention on your child, your spouse or anyone, even yourself, check the station you’re tuned into.
If you don’t like what you feel or hear in your head, chances are neither will anyone else. Change the channel. Gain control of your frequency. Don’t allow every piece of media, angry driver or stressed boss pick emotions for you. Play some classical music, get some fresh air, hug a tree, whatever centers you and turns you to a positive channel. Tune yourself and your attention will be good for you and beneficial to everyone around you.Read More
Patience, sensitivity and attention become a two way street in communication. From “what” to say to “how” to listen, communication is the lifeline of the family unit. A family that communicates well builds healthy, solid bonds that provide children the safety they need to develop self-confidence. Avoiding judgments and taboos creates a trusting environment, which allows children to openly discuss their feelings and ask questions freely.Read More
Have you ever heard of people who can’t find a reason to wake up in the morning? That is a serious sign of depression or serious lack of motivation. As our interests in life change, so do our motivations. But every action begins with an incentive and a motivation to do it.
Giving children everything leaves them wanting nothing. Allowing children to work for what they want, gives them incentive, motivation and the satisfaction of accomplishment, while reinforcing their self-esteem and self-confidence.
While parents’ motivations tend to be long term, such as picking a preschool already thinking of college, children can’t think that far ahead. Their future is relative to their life story. Five year olds cannot think fifteen years into the future, nor do they know what college is.Read More
Lying dormant amongst patience and confidence, courage dreams of waking up. Courage wants to prove itself. Courage wants to let us know who we are. In making its presence known when overcoming challenges, downfalls, fears and limitations, courage propels us.
In quiet non-action, courage speaks its loudest words. In letting go of rituals to let children learn them, in encouraging independence to make children self-reliant, in giving respect, space or privacy, courage soars. In so many aspects and in so many ways, courage comes in to move us forward and get us past our fearful or selfish wishes and choices.Read More
The system is so easy to use, a child can explain it. But here are the 10 most important reasons why you should try the GOOD PUPPY Children Behavioral & Emotional System if you're a parent, teacher or therapist of children, ages 3 to 9.Read More