THE PARENTING GUIDE : CHAPTER 7
How To Improve Child Behavior
Positively Affect Children’s Conditioning
We are all a product of conditioning. From the moment a mother answers to her babies’ cries, she is conditioning the child to cry to get attention. At the same time, the baby is conditioning the mother to understand the baby’s needs and react accordingly.
Healthy Conditioning Is Not Covert
If it weren’t for conditioning, living in urban cities would be impossible. From traffic signals to signs, symbols and colors that curb our behavior by telling us when to go, slow down, stop or turn, where to be quiet, to smoke, eat, walk, run, bike, drive or fly. We respond to so many of these commands because we’re consciously preconditioned to do so. We had to learn the meanings of all of those symbols. Who would give a drivers license to someone that wasn’t consciously following all of these signals?
In order to become a good driver, we move knowledge into the subconscious. Once we have taught ourselves, or conditioned ourselves, to react properly subconsciously, we don’t need to think about each and every move and we put driving into automatic mode. We immediately start looking for new actions to fill our conscious mind, such as rehashing situations, daydreaming, listening to the radio or talking on the phone.
Does Conditioning Endanger Critical Thinking?
Conditioning does not cancel out rationality nor critical thinking. We’re walking down the street and we arrive at a corner, the street light is telling us to wait to cross, but we don’t see any traffic coming for miles. Do we wait? Most of us will cross. Some of us will not only assess the risk factor, but also the chances of getting a jay walking ticket. Children do the same thing. They assess a situation and make choices accordingly. Helping children make the right choices is where parenting comes in and where a super sidekick can be super-helpful!
How Conditioning Can Be The Result Of Multiple Bonding Experiences
An intrinsic ingredient of bonding, conditioning can be found in the chicken soup mom made when we were sick, or the cookies grandma made for Christmas. Most of us won’t even have chicken soup unless we’re sick, just because we associate it with being sick. Others will have chicken soup when they are in need of comfort. But no chicken soup is ever as good as mom’s. It is the same with grandma’s cookies. They’re not just cookies, they evoke specific feelings.
How Conditioning Builds Memories
Conditioning is one of the biggest builders of memories. We usually remember what we have done repeatedly, whether it was Saturday movies, walks by the lake with grandpa, the ice cream parlor aunt Betty used to take us to, or family trips to the beach; these repeated experiences conditioned us. They may explain why we love the ocean, or why we’re scared of lakes, or why we’re fascinated by movies, or why ice cream makes us feel so good. They trigger programming based on earlier experiences.
Great and positive experiences fill us with self-esteem and courage. Negative experiences fill us with fear and anxiety. What we tend to overlook is that we can reprogram ourselves by creating stronger positive experiences to overwrite the old negative programming.
How To Promote Positive Conditioning To Create Positive Experiences
The GOOD PUPPY Child Cognitive Behavioral System is about reinforcing good behavior with incentives that promote each child’s own interests, in order to grow self-esteem. The system replaces old negative conditioning with positive experiences. It is about teaching children to be empathetic, caring, well-adjusted beings, in touch with themselves and the world around them. It’s about growing smart thinkers who consider consequences when making choices. Your super sidekick is here to assist you in creating positive experiences that fuel curiosity and courage.
IMPROVING CHILD BEHAVIOR & FAMILY DYNAMICS
WITH THE HELP OF YOUR SUPER SIDEKICK
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NEED HELP WITH CHILD BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT?
MEET ROGER GOOD
Your New Super Sidekick!
An icon of empathy, Roger is the puppy children want and the puppy parents prefer to adopt. Fueled by good intentions, Roger stands as translator for the younger crowd, acts out every emotion so that children won’t have to and even tracks their behavior. Roger teaches children to think critically, considering consequences before making choices.
Turning Child Behavior Management Into Child’s Play!
While behavior management is one the most trying aspects of parenting, Roger has the talent to turn it into a game for the entire family. Transforming constant repetition and dynamics that result in negative attention into positive learning experiences by enticing children to behave properly, willingly.
Positively Affecting Family Dynamics
Within this exciting new journey, new symbols replace long or repetitive explanations. “Yellow” takes a whole new meaning in this private language that changes the behavioral conversation to one that neither antagonizes nor threatens. Communication becomes quick and effective. Good is where children set off from every morning and what is expected of their choices throughout the day. Teaching children to make good choices, is what is expected from parents. But, of course, it is a lot easier with the help of your super sidekick!
GOOD PUPPY Child Cognitive Behavioral Tools defer behavior to the puppy, freeing parents from the “bad cop” role and bestowing upon them the time and the environment to become guides and moral luminaries to their children.
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JUST STICK TO THE CONSEQUENCES!
How A Fair System Builds Trust And Self-Esteem
The GOOD PUPPY Children Behavioral & Emotional System keeps everyone in check. Parents can follow the System’s simple steps for avoiding stress, getting entangled in misbehavior, or over-punishing from emotional reactions. Children will seek attention with good deeds and critical thinking. As they expect to lose privileges for bad behavior, they also expect to be rewarded for good behavior. Consistency in the application of all rewards and loss of privileges will teach the child to be consistent as well.
How A Fair System Promotes Bonding
GOOD PUPPY Consequences are an agreement to work together, learn together and grow ever smarter and happier together, as a family and as individuals. By sticking to the consequences, everyone gets the respect they deserve and seek. Mutual respect builds trust and strengthens bonds.
Fairness, being the main rule of the game, welcomes children to a world that rewards commitment and honesty. Enriching children with a healthy code of ethics, expands their awareness and consciousness, while promoting a more ethical world for them to inhabit.
GOOD PUPPY Child Cognitive Behavioral Tools help children get attention for good behavior; assuring them a positive response to their needs, while building their confidence and self-esteem through daily accomplishments.
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CHILD COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL TOOLS
THE SMART COMPONENTS OF A COHERENT SYSTEM
Choose Your Tools!
Working together as a symphony of behavior, GOOD PUPPY Child Behavioral Tools send a consistent message of harmony in communication and conduct. Parents quickly learn to orchestrate these instruments to compose a balanced and uplifting routine that promotes healthy growth.
Enlist Your Little Helpers
Children’s acceptance of the system turns them into collaborators. When responsible for their actions, children look to shine and be rewarded by avoiding wrong choices.
Get ready to feed children’s curiosity and their desire to strive and to accomplish. Carefully tailor incentives and rewards to suit each child’s personality, interests and likes, or to target inhibitions or limits. GOOD PUPPY brings you the tools to help children accomplish just about anything they set their minds to!
The Child Cognitive Behavioral System was designed to improve communication. From its empathetic design, which children can understand before they can read, to its charts, tools and games to aid in the recognition and verbalization of emotions, the system itself acts as an aid in communication. This fair and systematic approach to behavior, based on privileges and bound by pre-established consequences, gives children peace of mind, within a solid structure they can trust.
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LET CHILDREN ROLL WITH THEIR EMOTIONS
LET THE DICE FALL WHERE THEY MAY
Let All Emotions Come Out
The heart of the GOOD PUPPY Child Behavioral System can only be its emotions tools. Designed to bring all feelings out, GOOD PUPPY Child Behavioral Emotions Tools range from wall charts to card games, board games, dominoes, checkers and finger puppets; all ready to get children talking and exploring their emotions.
Watch Children Put Their Emotions On The Table
Opening up can be difficult for shy or insecure children who may be afraid of being judged or set apart. Getting to truly know your children’s feelings, to understand them and help them navigate their emotions, is where GOOD PUPPY Child Behavioral Tools and your super sidekick get to show off.
Children love Roger and investigating each and every image he presents to them. Through empathy, Roger communicates with children directly, serving as a visual translator. Turning difficult situations into challenges, Roger familiarizes children with an array of emotions, putting them ahead of the game when having to face them in real life.
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Everything Parents, Caretakers, Teachers, Counselors, Therapists & Social Workers Needed For So Long
The tool-kits are at the core of the GOOD PUPPY Child Cognitive Behavioral System. Curated for home, school and therapy, the books are designed for the most effective implementation of the system; introducing a fun, compelling and motivating game that can quickly and effectively improve child behavior and family or classroom dynamics.
Bringing Order To Child Behavior Management
Behavior management can be a daunting job. Just figuring out where to start can be overwhelming. Leading the way to clear understanding, the GOOD PUPPY Child Behavioral Toolkits take you by the hand. Starting with establishing a fair and healthy structure and understanding personalities to create the right incentives, to exploring emotions and discovering virtues, the system is rigged in everyone’s favor. Because in this game, everybody wins!
A Tool-Kit Just For You
Whether managing child behavior at home, in school, or at therapy, there is a toolkit curated for your exact needs, and all of them available in both softcover and printable PDF.
The system itself is customizable, in order to address or focus on what’s needed most in each particular scenario.
The implementation tool-kits for therapists, which include the THERAPY Streamlined Toolkit and its Spanish version, the GOOD PUPPY Kit De Herramientas, feature a streamlined set of tools, without instructions, ready for implementation by therapists who have studied the THERAPY Manual & Toolkit.
The GOOD PUPPY Child Behavioral System keeps the family playing under fair, pre-established consequences. All it takes is consistency to implement and maintain a healthy structure. Children love the game and will help keep parents in check and following the simple rules.
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START IMPROVING CHILD BEHAVIOR & FAMILY DYNAMICS
GET IN THE GOOD PUPPY GAME
An Inclusive Child Behavioral System
The GOOD PUPPY Child Cognitive Behavioral System is not only simple, but also inclusive. Multiple correspondences, such as colors, images and words, make it accessible to children with dyslexia, color blindness and other dissociative disorders. Its empathetic imagery, reaches children years before they are able to read. Designed for ages 3 to 9, the system consists of multiple coherent tools, some of which that can reach children up to pre-teen years.
Implementing The System For Home Is Easy, Free & Quick
You only need 3 tools, which you may download free from the Toolkits’ Samples.
1: AGREEMENTS: Set Up The 3 Agreements.
2: AVATAR & CONSEQUENCES: Write down the consequences for each level and explain the four puppy positions to the child.
3: BEHAVIOR JOURNAL: Start on the nightly behavioral chart to track child behavior.
Customize The System To Your Needs
Download your HOME Super Sidekick Sample and implement the system in a matter of minutes. Once the system is implemented, you can add to it as you see fit. From positive reinforcements with Tickets, incentives with Gift Certificates, rewards, with Certificates of Achievement, or emotional support with any Emotions or Innerchi tools, the game only gets more exciting.
Positive identifiers, such as the Morning Salute, work at keeping children healthy and focused on doing well. It really wouldn’t hurt parents to recite along with children, to tune the entire family to the same vibrant frequency. Sharing good thoughts bonds the family unit.
GOOD PUPPY Child Cognitive Behavioral Tools are designed to improve family dynamics, communication and bonding, for a stronger family unit.
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GET READY, SET, GO!
IMPLEMENT THE CHILD BEHAVIORAL SYSTEM FREE
& Put Roger To The Test!
There’s no need to commit to a system without testing it first. The GOOD PUPPY Child Behavioral System offers its 3 main tools, required to start improving child behavior, within the free toolkit samples. You may download the sample that fits your needs, for either HOME, SCHOOL or THERAPY, print out the sample’s 3 free tools and get started today!
How To Implement The 3 Free Tools At Home
Simply download the Child Behavioral HOME Super Sidekick FREE SAMPLE to get the three tools you need to start seriously improving family dynamics, today.
Then, watch the short video above, or follow the instructions below.
How To Implement The 3 Free Tools
A Few Minutes That Can Improve A Lifetime
TOOL #1: The Child Behavioral Agreements Chart
This behavioral contract is designed to improve communication. Setup three rules that describe the behavior you want from your children and the reasons why. When Children understand the reason why a behavior is expected of them, they are more likely to agree and follow through. Keep agreements short and explanations clear. Here’s an example:
Agreement #1: Always Be Polite
Because… You treat others the way you want to be treated.
Agreement #2: Cooperate
Because… In a family, everyone has to help.
Agreement #3: Follow Our Instructions
Because… There isn’t always time for an explanation.
These three agreements cover the basic requirements to support good behavior. You’re more than welcome to use them as they are, or customize them to fit your situation. Just make sure to create agreements based on the behaviors you do want. Writing negative lists, such as “do not do this or that” lists, fills children’s heads with the wrong ideas, while giving them no clue as to what positive behaviors are expected of them.
TOOL #2: The Child Behavioral Avatar Tags
The system is comprised of 4 levels, each with its own color, name and image of our puppy, Roger Good. Each color or level is attached to consequences. As children learn to earn their privileges, something such as time spent on electronics, becomes a reward for good behavior and cooperation.
Children start each day on green, Good Puppy.
If they do well, they remain on green, Good Puppy.
If they do super well, they can move up to blue, Super Puppy.
If they don’t follow the agreements, they move down to yellow, Silly Puppy.
If they stray again, they go down to red, Naughty Puppy. This may require a time out. A time out is a time to look at our emotions and figure out what made us stray and how to get back to green. Help children get back to green by suggesting good deeds to make up for their misbehavior.
Set up the system by filling out the consequences on the back of each card:
Blue should have extra privileges.
Green should have all the privileges the child usually has.
Yellow should represent a loss of some privileges.
Red should represent a loss of all privileges.
TOOL #3: The Child Behavioral Journal
Make a safe space every night to sit down with your child and review the days’ behaviors. This will give you the perfect opportunity to bond and discuss questions children may have, away from the situation.
Do this every night in order to build a journal, to review behavior and view the progress made. Later on, this journal will become a piece of nostalgia; something to keep in mind when writing it. Make it something fun to look back onto years from now!
Child & Family Therapy
GOOD PUPPY Child Cognitive Behavioral System Collaborator, Consultant, Implementer & Master Coach
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In his fifteen years working with children, ages 3 to 18, Gabriel noticed a lack of tools to implement changes in family dynamics, prompting the creation and his collaboration on the GOOD PUPPY Child Cognitive Behavioral System. You can find Gabriel in South Florida, making families happy with quick and effective results, or online, looking to share his toys and everything he’s learned.