We are all a product of conditioning. From the moment a mother answers to her babies’ cries, she is conditioning the child to cry to get attention. At the same time, the baby is conditioning the mother to understand the baby’s needs and react accordingly.
If it weren’t for conditioning, living in urban cities would be a total disaster. From traffic signals to signs, symbols and colors that curb our behavior by telling us when to go, slow down, stop, or turn, where to be quiet, to smoke, eat, walk, run, bike, drive or fly. We respond to so many of these commands because we’re preconditioned to do so. Who would give a drivers license to someone that wasn’t preconditioned to follow these signals?
In order to become a good driver, we move knowledge into the subconscious. Once we have taught ourselves or conditioned ourselves to react properly subconsciously, we don’t need to think about each and every move and we put driving into automatic mode. We immediately start looking for new actions to fill our conscious mind, such as rehashing situations, daydreaming, listening to the radio or talking on the phone.
Conditioning does not cancel rational thinking. We arrive at a corner and the light is telling us to wait to cross but we don’t see any traffic coming for miles. Do we wait? Most of us will cross. Some of us will not only assess the risk factor but also the chances of getting a jay walking ticket. Children do the same thing. They assess a situation and make choices accordingly. Helping children make the right choices is where parenting comes in and where a super sidekick can be super-helpful!
An intrinsic ingredient of bonding, conditioning can be found in the chicken soup mom made when we were sick to the cookies grandma made for Christmas. Most of us won’t even have chicken soup unless we’re sick just because we associate it with being sick. Others will have chicken soup when they are in need of comfort. But no chicken soup is ever as good as mom’s. It is the same with grandma’s cookies. They’re not just cookies, they evoke specific feelings.
Conditioning is one of the biggest builders of memories. We usually remember what we have done repeatedly, whether it was Saturday movies, walks by the lake with grandpa, the ice cream parlor aunt Betty used to take us to or family trips to the beach, these repeated
experiences conditioned us. They may explain why we love the ocean or why we’re scared of lakes or why we’re fascinated by movies or why ice cream makes us feel so good. They trigger programming based on earlier experiences.
Great and positive experiences fill us with self-esteem and courage. Negative experiences fill us with fear and anxiety. What we tend to overlook is that we can reprogram ourselves by creating stronger positive experiences to overwrite the old negative programming.
The GOOD PUPPY System is about reinforcing good behavior with incentives that promote each child’s own interests, or defies their fears. It is about teaching children to be empathic, caring, well-adjusted beings, in touch with themselves and the world around them. It’s about growing smart thinkers who consider consequences when making choices. GOOD PUPPY is also very much about Roger, the puppy. Your super sidekick is here to assist you in creating positive experiences that fuel curiosities and courage for growing good kids.